Dear Gay and Lesbian community,
I am a Christian. I love Jesus and I do my best to live like He did. But so often I fail. In fact every moment of every day I am so far away from what Jesus was like you would be forgiven for thinking I wasn’t a Christian. Or maybe not. Maybe if you knew me you would think that I was the perfect Christian. Judgmental, sometimes I lie, I gossip, I swear, I hate it when someone doesn’t see my point of view, get nervous around people that are different than me, do the direct opposite of what I claim to believe. Yep, sometimes I am pretty sure I would fit right into the idea you have of what a Christian is like.
But like I said I don’t blame you. Because that’s what we are like sometimes…well not all of us…but…sometimes a lot of us….eh..a lot of the time, me. And for that I am sorry. I am sorry that this past week when Anderson Cooper came out publicly, many people who profess that Jesus is their Lord attacked him. I am sorry that we were not caring. I am sorry that we judged who he is completely because of his sexuality. I am sorry that we looked down on him. I am sorry that when we talk about you we use negative language. I am sorry that we talk about homosexuality as an abstract debate rather than about real people with feelings and dreams. For this and so much more I am sorry.
But most of all I am sorry that you don’t get to see Jesus in us.
That when you meet most of us you don’t feel unconditionally loved. I am sorry that when it comes to you, we forget about the things that we believe to be fundamentally true. Like how nothing can separate people from God’s love, not even your sexuality.
The thing is I would hate it if because of the way some of us treat you, you never felt Jesus’ love for you. Because I need to tell you something. If you want to know what Jesus is like, sometimes the last place you should look is in Church.
But I want to try and fix that a little right now. But I want you to know I am not trying to fix you. I am not hoping that if you read this you will become a Christian and stop being gay. I honestly don’t believe the two have to be mutually exclusive.
I simply want you to know that Jesus loves you.
As you are.
There is no hidden, ulterior motive to me telling you this.
I just want you to know it.
I want you to know that when we attack you it’s because we are probably unhappy with some of the stuff we do in our own lives. We carry about crap that we take out on you.
Man, for that I am sorry.
That is bullshit of us. That is the lowest of the low. If anyone needs to know Jesus it is us.
But I don’t want this to be all negative about Christians. Because there are some out there who love you and accept you. We all need to be more like them and I hope that you see some of that in me.
Because when you feel worthless or inferior because of how a Christian reacts to you, it is not how Jesus would make you feel.
He would talk to you and He would listen to you and He would socialize with you. He would even buy you a beer. Or at least make some of His own.
He understands more than anyone what it is like to be different. The same people that he came from, hated Him. They are the same people today that hate you too. The overtly religious. So I guess you are in good company.
But seriously we need to change. We need to love you like Jesus does. We need to stop judging and accept you as you are. People that Jesus loves without any prerequisites. Just like how He loves me and everyone else. When you think about it we’re all the same. We need to be loved. We are loved.
I just pray that we remember that next time we meet you.
I hope you forgive us.
God knows we need it.