Look at porn?….Why not: Redefining sexuality for the church.

Everyone knows that it can prove very dangerous to mess up on grammar. You can really give the wrong impression with an ill placed comma or full stop. Or in the case of the title of this blog, a question mark.


You could read the title of this blog in two ways. Firstly, you could read it as a invitation to look at porn and a response to take that invitation up on its offer.

The other way you could read it is as an invitation, followed by a response detailing a few reasons why you wouldn’t or shouldn’t look at porn.lets eat grandma

I’ve definitely asked myself the very same question and answered in both ways, countless times in my life. But I think a question like this and how we respond shows us a lot of why churches are ill equipped to talk about porn or sex with their congregations. It’s not so much that it’s a bad question or even unhelpful, but rather not the best way to start conversations around sex. Continue reading

Real men talk about porn.

SECRET+WPI recently came upon this post about porn addiction and as a porn addict myself who has struggled on and off for many years and has been able to get it under control (with a lot of help from other people- I’ll get to that later) I take a keen eye when it comes to reading articles and blogs and pieces about porn. Especially, as it relates to Christians.

So when this blog came to my attention via Stuff Christian Culture Likes on facebook I clicked the link to read it straight away.

Now I am sure that the writer had the best intentions when writing it and I am sure they are passionate about seeing men (and women) free from porn. He is spot on when he says that porn addiction is a conversation that we need to be having.

The problem with any discussion on porn addiction that begins with hyperbolic language to make a point is that you run the risk of alienating the very people who need to hear the message. Continue reading

Porn: How the Church needs to opt in.

A week after David Cameron’s announcement that he would be tackling internet porn by ensuring that all new internet users would have to effectively choose to be able to view porn online; it is fair to say that responses have been mixed.

On the face of it it’s good news for parents all over the UK who are concerned about what their kids are viewing online. Parents can now choose to block all porn sites and relax knowing that their kids will not be able to view porn.

Kids viewing porn is never a good thing. It can lead to years of shame and self esteem issues if let to spiral out of control into their teenage and then adult years. It’s is easier than ever to view porn and if you care at all about what your kids are looking at then you shouldn’t let the internet babysit your kids. Continue reading

A Friendly Sunday morning Porn Message

Some of you might ask why do I write and tweet about porn so much.

The reason is simple. I struggled with porn for a long time and now I want to help people who still do, break free from this addiction. As a Christian when I hear stats like 50% of Christian families admitting that porn has been an issue in their homes, it makes me wonder just how much porn is a problem in the Church. When almost the same amounts of Pastors admit that they have looked at porn while working I don’t really need to wonder too much more. Continue reading